Emotional Intelligence


"Emotional Intelligence" (EI) was a term coined to get a handle on something that was otherwise too 'slippery' & difficult to work with, but is increasingly recognized as being important.   

There is substantial disagreement about what EI is, infact (see Wikipedia link) so here we're just pointing out how some ideas & techniques of EI can be useful if we think of them as Thinking Tools. 

In many ways the 'tools' of EI consist of a set of applied findings on how to deal with the rampant irrationality in our present society, mixed with a lot of great human common-sense (that is not so common).   

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"All great leadership is all about emotional intelligence". 
Harvard Review

Please note we're just describing as EI the expression as used most commonly, not what 'emotional intelligence' might (or even perhaps 'should') mean.  

Eg. the (often quoted) fact that  "people will remember the way you made them feel, not what you actually said"  is more testament to our lack of intelligence rather than anything else, (it's the Form over Content pattern again: typical of a consumerist, exploitative culture) & you might argue that we don't actually want to encourage that kind of thing.   

But 'emotional intelligence' has ways of acknowledging & working with what IS, so it is useful if used well, at least whilst we are, in fact, surrounded by rampant irrationality.
    
So it can be used in any good TRANSITION design, whilst we fully recognize that we're not actually aiming for a society where people are quite so disabled, emotionally, as to need all this 'bag of tricks' & attitudes or tools anymore, to feel better about themselves.

So use with discretion, as thinking tools, keeping a look-out for when it becomes 'manipulation of irrationality' which might lead to just more irrationality, & where it is genuinely useful, both in the shorter & longer-term.     (Note it mostly consists of a set of observation, recipes & tools without actual stated model behind them, as such).

A lot of what seems to get labelled 'emotional intelligence' would come under the genre that Covey describes as the self-improvement schools that focus on the Personality ethic rather than the Character ethic.   

Much of EI is about learning the behaviors (that you can fake) that don't necessarily come from who you actually are.    Eg. to smile in order to release endorphins,  

Yet there is also such a thing as "fake it until you make it" .. & it could be argued (& in fact, it is argued) that even non-genuine behavioral changes can help us learn the real thing.

There are many resources on EI out there, please do let us know of your favorites so we can add them here.  

Here we have compiled the work of Amanda Gore, who comes from a conventional psychology background but has found some brilliant ways to make this (perhaps useful transition science) not only easy to understand but very entertaining ..




Note that according to the RC model of the mind there is no such thing as EI, but just 'plain', genious-sized intelligence, which gets un-covered more & more as we re-learn how to discharge emotions.  And it's the same flexible intelligence that can help us handle rocket science & what to do with other's emotions, or our own.
There is over an hour & a half of funny videos here
which can work quite well as a wisdom & reality-injection 
any time you're maybe feeling down.  
Enjoy! 

Amanda Gore on Emotional Intelligence



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Why Women are Different from Men & vice-versa



How to remember names & get that parking ticket





How to let someone know you love them





How to let go of the Past




How to be Happy





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Are you the Fun Fairy?





Interview with Amanda Gore





On the Purpose of Life





At a Hairdressers Conference



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